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welcome! to feeling emotional, 3!
after looking things over here at feeling emotional,
3, try out "the layer down under," (part of
the emotional feelings network of sites) & read a special "i just gotta say it" column concerning porn addiction by clicking here! Be sure to scroll down towards the bottom of the right hand column to find it!
Another Suggestion! Visit the homepage because it has more information about the emotional feelings network of sites!
I was personally very touched by this inspiring story as I watched it on
television last night (2/27/07); especially after I experienced a life altering injury which took me 2 years to recover from.
What I want to ask you is...
If you can't help out with the helmets, below for our military men, can
you volunteer or help our returning soldiers who are recovering with extreme traumatic brain injury?
Here are some links!
Check them out, I know that my family will be searching for a way we can help!
Remember, extreme or traumatic physical injuries affect mental health as well.
What is Operation Helmet?
Founded in 2003 by Dr. Robert H. Meaders whose grandson is an active duty Marine in Iraq, Operation Helmet is a nonpartisan 501(c)(3) organization dedicated
to providing safer helmet pad upgrade kits to the troops in Iraq & Afghanistan.
To date, more than 6,000 kits have been shipped to the troops in the field.

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How this site works best for you!
You'll
notice that there are many underlined link
words in each article below. The reason for this is that you have reached not only, "feeling
emotional, 3," but the emotional feelings network of sites. There are many sites
included within the network that'll be visited by clicking on these underlined
link words.
If you can't find what you came
here looking for, visit the homepage for the emotional feelings network of sites by clicking above & read the options on
the homepage for the networks index of sites. Try to be specific when looking for an emotion or feeling word & click on the site you need!
It's very simple & very
interesting to follow your way thru the layers of your buried or stuffed emotions & feelings that have accumulated throughout the years!
when you've reached this point, or this website, you know you're making
progress!!!! this part gets difficult because now is the time to look within & become emotionally honest with yourself!!!
Best of luck & if you're
still stuck, send me an e-mail anytime, by clicking here & I'll be glad to send you an immediate personal response!
Sincerely,
Kathleen



What Can I Do To Stop Feeling So Miserable?
QUESTION:
I was never miserable as a child. I came from a Brady Bunch family. I don't know what my problem is. For
the last couple of years I've been depressed. After my first love left
me, I tried to commit suicide.
I felt
so lost
& saw
no hope. I
always feel insecure &
need constant reassurance in relationships. I read about
personality disorders & connected most w/dependent personality disorder. My biggest fear is rejection.
If someone leaves me I go out of control.
I fly into a rage & feel
this intense heat come over my body. I always feel like it's my fault & end up in total depression. Some
days I have road rage so bad
& feel like "so what" if someone hurts me, it'll be better than feeling this pain.
Also I've noticed that all I do is complain about my problems & the solution to me seems out
of reach. I read your list for mentally happy people & realized that I put
my happiness second to the person whom I'm in a relationship w/for fear of rejection.

I
know that isn't normal & it scares me. I carry anger around w/me everywhere, mainly for lacking self confidence in every aspect of my life. I can remember as early
as the 2nd grade not finishing a project because I thought that mine could never look as good as my friends.
I
know this is long, but I've never spoken so openly about myself. Now that I look back at what I've wrote I can't help but feel like I'm defective in someway. I envy happy people. I
don't want to live
my life miserable & afraid anymore.
Please help.
living your life in misery is something like the description above... this was a real letter written to an online psychologist for help...
Understanding about your emotions can help you begin to process some of the emotions & feelings that you have to start to resolve your feelings of misery...

Aunt Webby
these examples of feeling miserable are just a sample of how millions of people are living their lives in misery...
dissecting the emotions involved in your turmoil & learning more about them is helpful. as you can see there are many situational descriptions in the 2 letters here - that happened in the past, yet
are the basis for the feelings & emotions that the people are feeling in the present that contribute to their misery...
here's a good example of how emotions & feelings interact w/each other to make someone feel miserable. in the second letter notice how the advice is to "not be idle," which is also "feeling bored" in your life.
boredom can manifest many of your emotions & feelings to escalate. putting yourself in the position where you're busy helping other people thru volunteering, can help you sort out your feelings & emotions in a healthy way.
helping others can help you identify what you're feeling & "why" in comparing your own situation to the people or person you're helping in a constructive way if you let it happen...
volunteering is a positive coping method... learning positive coping methods will help you in your quest to process & deal w/your own emotions...



Miserable People
9-18-1999
What I write few will read & even fewer will understand. If somehow it helps even one person, then the effort put forth will be justified.
I just can't believe how miserable people can be w/everything. They're unkind & 'Mad" all the time. They blame their plight on others. They want others to be perky, bright & jolly. They want pity & others
to feel sorry for them. They can't
accept or understand the
needs of others.
They claim they're compassionate but this trait is never seen w/out
a corresponding vocal statement about how tired they are & how many sacrifices they've had to make to be helpful. In other words, they're only compassionate & kind when
it results in pity & others
feeling sorry for them.
I, obviously, don't know why nature made these people this way. It may be a learned trait. In
any event, these people love to make others feel bad. They love to
be martyrs.
They love to complain about everything others do.
In fact, it seems their happiest moments are
when they're berating someone else with or w/out cause.

The storm trooper attitude of these people is unbelievable. They walk over anyone & everyone in their field of vision. They take everything they can get in the process. They take
& take whether needed or not. They never give anything back. They never get enough. They can never see their own short-comings.
This is the environment & society I have inherited. This is the society which believes they've earned & deserve to be a beneficiary in spite of their belligerent & hateful attitude. Attitudes which they never recognize.
They're uneducated, miserable,
unhappy & broke . They'll not spend a minute trying to correct these characteristics. They prefer to make all
those around them miserable & then blame everything on those they have just made miserable.
The following sorta sums up my frustration. This is from
an Ann Landers column in the Wichita Eagle on September 16, 1999.
Live
Long & Prosper! J F Hawkins
putting all defensiveness aside...
what do you think about the letter above?
how does it make you feel?
miserable people do have a tendency to make others miserable also thru association... if you're a miserable person... are you aware of how your misery affects others?
these examples of feeling miserable are just a sample of how millions of people are living their lives in misery...
Hope deferred makes
the heart sick...
(Prov, 13:12)
Are we really more miserable?
We are wealthier &
physically healthier than ever & yet 1 in 4 of us has suffered depression. As a new report reveals a dramatic increase in students experiencing
mental health problems, Sarah Boseley asks if we really are more miserable.
read this article by clicking on the title to take a look into
feeling miserable & how it connects to depression



Maintaining bad marriages can hurt kids
By Marilyn Elias, USA TODAY
Couples who keep an angry, belittling marriage together "for the sake of the kids" tend to raise children whose marriages are as miserable
as the ones they grew up in, suggests a new 17-year study of two generations.
The findings provide strong
evidence that marital unhappiness can be passed on to younger generations, marriage experts agree.
But that doesn't mean discontented partners are always better off divorcing, says Penn State University sociologist Paul Amato, senior author of the study.
He and coauthor Alan Booth followed 297 married couples & one child from each family for 17 years. The researchers took
into account key influences on marital happiness, such as income, education, age at first marriage & divorce history. Still, they found:

- The more discord parents reported in their marriages, the more
unhappily married their grown kids were.
- If a parent's marriage improved over time, their child's marriage
was better than that of kids whose parents were unhappy to start & never became happier. Worsening of the parental marriage led to poorer marriages for grown kids.
- The key qualities in parents' marriages linked to later bad
matches for their youngsters were: jealous or domineering behavior by spouses; quickness to anger; being critical or moody & refusing to talk to one's spouse.
"If people
in these marriages are staying together for the sake of the kids, they're not doing their kids any favor," Amato says.
But most
marriages go thru bad patches, he adds. The findings don't suggest youngsters are better off if their parents split up rather
than working thru periodic hard times.

Children
raised by parents who quarrel bitterly or give each other "the silent treatment" may imitate these patterns in their own marriages, Amato speculates. Also, these kids don't learn how to resolve disputes
w/loved ones.
Spouses
are constantly battling in about 20% of U.S. marriages, says psychologist Mavis Hetherington, University of Virginia professor
emeritus & author of For Better or for Worse: Divorce Reconsidered (W.W. Norton &
Co. Inc.), due out next month.
"In these
very contentious marriages, particularly if parents are arguing about the children a lot, kids are much worse off than they'd
be if parents just divorced," Hetherington says.
But many
marriages that end in divorce aren't hostile, Amato says. 3 out of 5 divorcing couples are just bored by their partners, his research shows.
And splitting
up apparently hurts adult kids, too. Compared w/ couples from intact homes, having one partner from a divorced family doubles the chance of an
adult child's divorce, Hetherington says. If both spouses are from divorced families, the risk is nearly 3 times greater.
None of
this is written in stone, though. If a spouse has divorced parents but marries someone from an intact home who is well-adjusted
& supportive, their divorce risk is no greater than that of couples whose parents weren't divorced, Hetherington says.
"Just about
everyone can improve their marriage," says University of Denver psychologist Howard Markman, author of Fighting for Your
Marriage (Jossey-Bass). "They can learn skills to help them handle negative emotions in marriage. It's the discord that hurts kids," Markman says.



Why Many Marriages Fail
James Long, Ph.D., P.E. Analog & RF Consulting Engineer
Even though I am a recluse,
I have seen many miserable marriages that shouldn't have been. Today's high divorce rate
is more of an indictment of parenting failures than other things. Had the people's parents told them the following basic concepts, the marriages would have never taken
place.
Another common failure of parenting is to not instill principles in children. They are programmed like read only memories. That is, they are told
what to do in different situations instead of being given the moral, economic, or health principles involved. As a result,
the children form their own principles from the statements from their parents, which seldom are the principles that the parents
wanted to instill.
The euphemism "reinventing
yourself" really means to trade one false front for another false front. This couldn't be done in past times. It's only journalists
that can allow this moral & ethical degeneracy to happen today by being part of it. This happens on a small scale in presenting
a false image to the potential marriage partner.
Marriage & children intensify
your basic feelings, they don't make them better. If you're unhappy single you'll be very unhappy married. If you have a bad marriage, children will make it worse.
There's a good book Toxic
Relationships & How To Change Them by Dr. Clinton W. McLemore which is a must reading for spotting behaviors in yourself
& your potential spouse that will lead to disastrous marriages & relationships.

Why There are so Many Marriage Failures Today
This is caused by 3 things,
mobility, affluency & isolation.
In times past people lived
& died in one geographic area as did their family. This meant that there were many relatives of yours who had observed
your potential spouse grow up & could give you wise advice about them. Since both you & your spouse came from the
same area, it was more likely that you had shared values & aspirations.
In times past it was both
spouses against nature. Keeping alive was the primary goal. They didn't have discretionary resources to spend. Each spouse
could have different dreams of the future, but since they wouldn't be implemented, they didn't conflict. Now that life is easy, there are expectations that these dreams can be implemented. If there aren't enough resources for both, conflicts emerge.
People live in isolation these days. They don't get to observe others & see how actions have long term consequences. Instead, they live in an
unrealistic dream world created by fiction entertainment, journalism & advertising. As a result, they have world views that are more conducive
to causing disasters in the physical world that their bodies live in.
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