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welcome! to feeling emotional, 3!
after looking things over here at feeling emotional,
3, try out "the layer down under," (part of
the emotional feelings network of sites) & read a special "i just gotta say it" column concerning porn addiction by clicking here! Be sure to scroll down towards the bottom of the right hand column to find it!
Another Suggestion! Visit the homepage because it has more information about the emotional feelings network of sites!
I was personally very touched by this inspiring story as I watched it on
television last night (2/27/07); especially after I experienced a life altering injury which took me 2 years to recover from.
What I want to ask you is...
If you can't help out with the helmets, below for our military men, can
you volunteer or help our returning soldiers who are recovering with extreme traumatic brain injury?
Here are some links!
Check them out, I know that my family will be searching for a way we can help!
Remember, extreme or traumatic physical injuries affect mental health as well.
What is Operation Helmet?
Founded in 2003 by Dr. Robert H. Meaders whose grandson is an active duty Marine in Iraq, Operation Helmet is a nonpartisan 501(c)(3) organization dedicated
to providing safer helmet pad upgrade kits to the troops in Iraq & Afghanistan.
To date, more than 6,000 kits have been shipped to the troops in the field.
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How this site works best for you!
You'll
notice that there are many underlined link
words in each article below. The reason for this is that you have reached not only, "feeling
emotional, 3," but the emotional feelings network of sites. There are many sites
included within the network that'll be visited by clicking on these underlined
link words.
If you can't find what you came
here looking for, visit the homepage for the emotional feelings network of sites by clicking above & read the options on
the homepage for the networks index of sites. Try to be specific when looking for an emotion or feeling word & click on the site you need!
It's very simple & very
interesting to follow your way thru the layers of your buried or stuffed emotions & feelings that have accumulated throughout the years!
when you've reached this point, or this website, you know you're making
progress!!!! this part gets difficult because now is the time to look within & become emotionally honest with yourself!!!
Best of luck & if you're
still stuck, send me an e-mail anytime, by clicking here & I'll be glad to send you an immediate personal response!
Sincerely,
Kathleen
exposing your own negativity
What negative garbage is preventing your inner healing?
You need to dump any or all of the following garbage of
emotions, feelings & attitudes in order to grow down in a healthy way.
The garbage of abuse The
anger, pain & hurt from childhood experiences of being abused physically, emotionally, verbally or sexually.
The garbage of neglect The
confusion, resentment, chip on the shoulder, the nurture neediness of being emotionally &/or physically neglected in your childhood.
The garbage of invisibility The numbness, lack of focus, fear, insecurity & lack of trust from being ignored & isolated from others as a result of being invisible to others in your childhood.
The garbage of violation of boundaries The anger, resentment, defensiveness, mistrust & guardedness of having your emotional &/or physical boundaries violated &/or ignored as a youth.
The
garbage of disassociation of feelings.
The confusion of not being able to label your feelings about past or present experiences in your life due to the survival mechanism of disassociation from the painful, humiliating, offensive, abusive, painful violations you experienced in your early life.
The garbage of sick family life The myriad irrational, unhealthy, sick beliefs, thoughts, attitudes, emotions, feelings, behaviors & actions which were the result of your being raised in a dysfunctional, sick &
emotionally unhealthy family.
Laying the Foundation explores the full range of issues resulting from being raised in a dysfunctional family.
The garbage of being over-criticized
The defensive emotional & attitudinal barriers you've set up to defend against the barrage of criticism, non-reinforcement & negativity you received in your formative years.
The garbage of loss. The
emotional turmoil from recognizing the magnitude of the losses in your life which are a result of being raised in a dysfunctional family, losing a healthy childhood,
losing a fantasy family life, losing loved ones to death &/or addiction &/or mental illness. Tools for Handling Loss explores these issues fully.
 
Tips for garbage dumping
Garbage-dumping tip 1: Get angry at behaviors & attitudes of people so as not to stay angry at the people.
Garbage-dumping tip 2: The purpose
of anger workout is to grow in self-esteem, self forgiveness & the ability to forgive people even if you're not ever able to fully forgive their unforgivable behaviors.
Garbage-dumping tip 3: Yell,
scream, ventilate your emotions. Emotional release energizes your inner child's healing powers.
Garbage-dumping tip 4: Crying
is a silent anger workout. It hinders the healing process. Cry at first but get ready to convert it eventually to vocalization for a good healthy
emotional dump.
Garbage-dumping tip 5: It isn't
pretty to dump all this emotional garbage so dress appropriately.
Garbage-dumping tip 6: Dump this
garbage in your own space; don't ever dump it on people. No one deserves to have your garbage dumped on them.
Garbage-dumping tip 7: Use all
of the Tools for Coping Series books to help you identify the issues to be dumped.
Garbage-dumping tip 8: Schedule
a dump session at least daily for the first 30 days of your efforts at growing down so that this garbage doesn't interfere
w/your inner child healing efforts.
Garbage-dumping tip 9: Use your
heart, feelings, emotions & gut in the dumping. Get out of your head. Try not to rationalize why you shouldn't be angry. Remember growing down is emotional release work & not intellectual fertilizer spreading.
Garbage-dumping tip 10: Full recovery & healing of your inner child requires that you
take up the cause or case of your inner child & need to dump all the garbage which has kept your inner child lost, hidden,
ignored, abandoned & isolated from you.
"Attitudes & emotions affect our health."
Negative emotions, negative attitudes & negative mental states, such as anger, hate, rage, fear, pride, jealousy, envy, resentments, guilt, greed, worries, suspicions, mistrust, complaining, etc. - cause us to behave in certain ways that
will just bring us unhappiness, suffering & pain.
Negative emotions can control us. They can take over our life & drain our energy. They can stop us from going after our dreams & accomplishing our goals. We have to learn to acknowledge that we're experiencing them & not allow them to keep growing inside of us.
We
have to try to take immediate action to prevent them from spreading & causing more damage. Once you acknowledge the presence of negative emotions you can decide not to let yourself fall under their control (like anger, i.e.).
It's not an easy task. We have to discipline
ourselves & refrain from becoming overwhelmed by these emotions & thoughts. I can't emphasize enough how much damage these negative thoughts & feelings can cause.
They
can truly ruin lives (ours & others). The Dalai Lama writes in his book "An Open Heart":
"These emotions are the real destructive forces of the universe. Most of the problems & suffering we experience, which are essentially
of our own making, are ultimately created by these negative emotions."
That's
when sometimes help is needed - sometimes we can't accomplish this by ourselves. A good therapist can help you & guide you to discover the origin of some of these emotions & help you find ways to channel them in positive actions.
You
have to learn to communicate & express those feelings or they'll create havoc in your life. Some people are like walking "time-bombs" full of rage & negative emotions & ready to explode any minute. They've kept their anger, hurt, resentments, etc. inside for too long & they become people w/"toxic personalities".
Learn instead to embrace positive thoughts & positive attitudes (love, kindness, compassion, friendship, respect, sympathy, empathy, patience, tolerance, etc.) & learn to forgive yourself & others for not being perfect.
You
can never be happy if you have a negative attitude most of the time - if everything bothers you, nothing is good enough for you, no one is
ever right, everyone is out there to get you; if you're hard to please; if you complain about almost everything; if you feel
sorry for yourself, etc. Your mental attitude is very important!
If you have a low self-esteem & don't feel good about yourself, you become an easy target for these negative emotions to invade every space in your mind. It'll be easier for you to take things personally, get upset more easily, misconstrue
people's intentions, etc. So, be careful. Work on your self-confidence & start appreciating who you are.
Remember: you matter a lot;
you are a very important person; you are here in this world for a good reason & to make a difference - so don't let anyone
put you down. Learn to love yourself!
People that let their negative emotions & thoughts take over their lives end up miserable & lonely.
She inspired me to become an avid reader & a generous person - like she was & I've learned a lot from her mistakes, so I'll always be grateful. But unfortunately she tortured herself all her life w/feelings of inadequacy & a very low self-esteem.
She was a very talented person w/a great voice & beautiful. She was the youngest
of 6 children, her parents came from Russia. At 13 she was awarded a scholarship to attend college & major in Music -
Opera was her passion.
Unfortunately,
her father didn't believe that she should get an education - "she's a girl, she doesn't need to study, I managed w/out school"
(that type of thinking). Her mother though, did appreciate her enormous talent & encouraged her to pursue her dreams; but still her father's words affected her all her life.
She
did graduate from College - which in itself was a big accomplishment for that time. But when her brothers or others made fun of her looks (she was very thin)
or her talent, she took it personally. Instead of pursuing her dream of singing, she sort of gave it up.
She
sang in churches & synagogues for a while; but didn't work hard at achieving her main goal of becoming an Opera singer.
In her 20's she became a buyer for a prestigious store (Gimbel's) & did enjoy her work
very much - it was hectic, but interesting & she had to travel to New York every week (which
she loved).
She
really thought it was an exciting & wonderful experience & she learned to dress beautifully & looked gorgeous - like a Hollywood actress; but even
then she felt bad about herself.
At 28 she got married; her family started putting pressure on her to get married & start a family - in those days you were considered too old not to be married at
28 (that past December of 1947 she had bought the book "Peace of Mind" by Joshua Loth Liebman -
please check the web page w/ that name) & so her mother sort of arranged a marriage for her (she knew this lady who was looking for a wife for her son & she thought they'd make a great couple, she thought his family had money & his mother thought her family had money - that's how I remember the story...).
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